This is an excellent post with very useful info by Eric from Make it Ultra especially because there’s a lot of people who like to take advantage of those who are kind and eager to please others.I see it all the time, at work, in school, they may be even in your own home. Just stand your ground and use your intuition to identify these people who are opportunistic, manipulative, bullies… those who just like to take advantage of your kindness and generosity.
There’s also a great post by Nina, “It is OK to say NO!” that’s in alignment with Eric’s article. I have to learn to use these tools as I am ashamed to admit that I am such a people pleaser. I am so proud of my 2 daughters because I have raised them to be very strong young ladies.(I guess it helped that they were born and raised in American culture, unlike myself.) I know I am a strong woman, however, feeling compelled to please and feeling guilty to turn people down just eats me up. Ugh! Oh why??? I still don’t understand why it bothers me so much. I hope to wake up one day and actually get to say “I don’t give a F!” and actually mean it. 😉 (BTW, I don’t cus so that will be the day… LOL)
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“I encourage people to remember that “No” is a complete sentence.” ~ Gavin de Becker
1. Identify current boundary crossers
The first step in setting healthy boundaries is identifying who it is that is the boundary crosser. How does this person make you feel? Most likely, telling this person how you feel will get you no where. They may even get satisfaction from hearing your plea. Remember, it is not uncommon for boundary crossers to be very purposeful in their boundary crossing behavior. This means they often know that they are doing it! If you feel taken advantage of, oppressed or bullied, it is important to make the conscious decision to change how you are interacting with them. Keep in mind, none of this will happen overnight. But, it definitely won’t happen unless you decide with the utmost conviction that something needs to change.
2. Consider how your past influences your present
Were you taught to set healthy boundaries? If…
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